Okay, that is going to sound unusual. However, bear with me. After having coached a whole bunch of parents on their job searches, I’ve seen a sample. And, it’s not one I’d have anticipated.
What’s certainly one of our primary fears in the case of job looking? It’s truly that we are going to get the job! That’s proper. We’re afraid of being provided a job.
Why on this planet would that be the case? It’s an amazing query, and the reply to this vital query may unlock a key to the job search.
First, let’s rewind a bit. Assume again on how you bought your present job. Then, take into consideration how you bought the job earlier than and the job earlier than that. In the event you’re like most individuals, you bought most of your jobs by means of a networking contact. Somebody occurred to know who you had been. They thought you could be an amazing match, and so they provided you a job. It was so simple as that.
This makes our deliberate job search a lot harder. We’ve a lot much less expertise deciding on what we need to do, after which going after it. We’ve usually simply gone with the circulate. If a good friend thought we could be good at gross sales, we tried gross sales. If an uncle had an operations position out there at his firm, we gave it a shot.
Proactively and intentionally looking for a job takes on a lot extra duty for our personal futures. So, why would we worry a job provide once we are clearly searching for a brand new job?
Properly, in the event you’re like most individuals, you will have taken most each (if not each) job you will have ever been provided. When your good friend or your uncle instructed you about an amazing alternative, you went for it.
The factor is, if you aren’t fairly positive what you need to be, you could be afraid of getting a job provide as a result of it may imply taking a job that’s not best for you. We’re afraid that we are going to be provided one thing as a result of we assume that being provided a job means taking a job.
So, we sit and stir. We expect and take into consideration what we would need to be – at some point. However, we’re so paralyzed with worry about making the incorrect alternative that we make no alternative.
However, what if – what if we determined that it could be okay to say no to a job provide that didn’t really feel like the proper match? What if we determined that it wouldn’t be losing the corporate’s time to undergo the interview course of, even when we didn’t take the job?
My guess is that we’d be much less paralyzed by worry. We might take a look at job looking extra like a reality discovering mission reasonably than a scary dedication. And, why not? The corporate would fortunately interview a candidate 5 instances earlier than strolling away if there wasn’t a great match. Why wouldn’t we as candidates be prepared to do the identical factor for ourselves?
Angela Copeland is a Profession Coach and Founding father of Copeland Teaching and will be reached at CopelandCoaching.com or on Twitter at @CopelandCoach.
