how do I discover garments that look businessy however not stuffy?
It’s the Thursday “ask the readers” query. A reader writes:
I’ve a last job interview tomorrow. My earlier interviews have been digital. I requested the recruiter (male) what to put on as a result of I seen my interviewers have been carrying denims and t-shirts. He mentioned, “Oh, no matter makes you comfy. Not a blazer. Most individuals right here put on denims and sneakers.” This ended up sending me right into a four-hour enterprise of making an attempt all the things in my closet on (I principally put on enterprise attire or blazers to work so was struggling to search out one thing that appears kind of effortlessly businessy) whereas my sister sat and gave her opinion on actually all the things, looking for the correct mix of informal however skilled, and touchdown on what was nonetheless a jacket however much less formal than a blazer with a cami and a few leggings and flats. And now blow drying my hair so I can begin from scratch to make it the suitable quantity of waves and all the things in order that it seems like I simply wakened that manner (however extra polished).
I really feel like this can be a feminine downside in quite a lot of methods. I’m making an attempt to hit the suitable be aware of interviewing for what is definitely a really senior management position on this group (a task is definitely very outwardly targeted) with out making an attempt to look stuffy and outdated and like I can’t adapt to a youthful surroundings. I’m a young-looking mid-40s lady in management and making an attempt to hit the suitable vibe of being taken significantly as a senior chief and in addition not being too “outdated.” I really feel males don’t should undergo this identical disaster of making an attempt to determine the best way to be taken significantly but in addition be related, based mostly on actually all my man mates giving me suggestions, however possibly I’m flawed?
What do different individuals do? Is that this simply me? I do know from studying the tales of trans individuals in your weblog that there are clearly totally different expectations between men and women. Even when nobody actually realizes or acknowledges them. However I really feel like “oh, put on no matter you’re comfy in” is a really well-meaning however tough response.
Readers, what’s your recommendation?
