Oooh, this seems like a enjoyable thread! My story isn’t terribly wild however I’ll share it anyway as a result of I’m happy with the truth that I really stood up for myself. Forgive me, it’s kinda lengthy. Anyway….
My boss was out on maternity depart this summer time so I used to be being supervised by her boss, who’s a c-level exec and who we are going to name Jane. Sooner or later, an worker on one other crew, Meg, requested me if we may have a fast name to speak a few challenge she was engaged on and ask me questions concerning the system I work with to see how we are able to combine the 2 techniques. (This will probably be a giant deal sooner or later however for now, she simply wanted to know a number of little particulars.) Meg and I scheduled the decision for the following afternoon. In the meantime, I had a gathering with Jane and an out of doors advisor who helps us with our system, and in the course of the assembly I discussed to the advisor that we had this challenge on our radar for the longer term and that I used to be assembly with Meg the following day. Jane mentioned, and I quote, “No you’re not.” Which completely took me aback. “Um, sure I’m?” “No, they’re not at that stage but, they’re not prepared for you, you don’t have time to fulfill with Meg.” As if Jane, who’s under no circumstances concerned with Meg’s crew or their challenge, would have any concept what stage they have been at nor in the event that they have been prepared to fulfill with me (and actually, why wouldn’t we be able to have a gathering that’s simply *actually* them asking me a few questions???). I suppose it’s potential that Jane misunderstood and thought that Meg needed to fulfill with me to start out getting the 2 techniques built-in, but when that’s what she thought then she clearly hadn’t been paying any consideration to what I’d been saying nor Meg’s challenge updates in our month-to-month employees conferences. (Each are potential b/c Jane isn’t nice at listening but it surely’s a wild misunderstanding b/c everybody is aware of that the challenge isn’t going to be completed for a lot of extra months and integration is just about the final step.)
After our advisor assembly, Jane instantly proceeded to name Meg and inform her to cancel our assembly. ???????
I then messaged Meg and mentioned, hey, I’m a bit miffed that Jane canceled our assembly for us however I’m nonetheless out there for the assembly and if you need we are able to simply “have a name” and never an official assembly, what do you say?
So Meg and I met for, and I’m not kidding, about 20 minutes. We every requested and answered a number of questions and I additionally mentioned that I used to be actually confused about Jane’s conduct/perspective and questioned if perhaps Meg’s boss, Fergus, would have the ability to assist me out as a result of whereas I used to be completely effective assembly covertly this time, I didn’t need to need to maintain pretending that I wasn’t serving to out the opposite crew once I actually was. And in addition it was STUPID for me to not assist the crew; I’m nonetheless fully mystified as to why Jane thought I shouldn’t assist them.
I then requested Fergus if he had a couple of minutes to speak and after we met I informed him that I used to be confused about Challenge X and whether or not or not I used to be purported to be serving to Meg with it or not. (Be aware: I actually wasn’t confused about it and I’m fairly positive Fergus additionally knew I wasn’t actually confused, however I used to be attempting to be diplomatic.) So he mentioned, “Completely you have to be concerned with Challenge X and I’ll inform Jane at our subsequent assembly that you have to be, don’t fear.” So he did after which despatched a really brief affirmation e mail after the assembly reiterating what he’d informed me and her. And yay!, now I can meet with Meg any time she wants me to and I don’t have to fret about Jane.
Jane was resulting from retire on the finish of 2023 however has caught round b/c her alternative doesn’t begin till subsequent week, sigh. At the least my boss is again from depart and I barely need to take care of Jane nowadays and I can not wait till she’s gone for good. I hope her alternative is means higher than she is, nearly nobody right here can stand her.
Oh, and I completely positively have loads of time to fulfill with Meg, my time is just not at a premium and I usually full my duties a lot faster than anybody right here thinks I do, so I even have plenty of down time. And bonus rapid replace: I’ve now met with Meg a grand whole of…….two entire instances re: Challenge X. So, yeah, it’s suuuuuch an enormous time suck, lemme inform ya….
