Listed below are three updates from previous letter-writers.
1. Ought to I work with this investor or run for the hills?
My letter was truly printed the identical day I used to be leaving for a trip. Whereas I used to be away, I had a while to essentially mirror in your response and suppose via my subsequent steps. What stood out to me probably the most in your response was while you stated that this investor appeared cavalier about my safety; after reflecting on my interactions with him, I believe this assertion hits the nail on the top. I’m additionally extremely grateful to the commenters for sharing phrases of knowledge. Practically everybody was urging me to not pursue this chance. A number of folks had even expressed that they had been in related conditions that didn’t pan out the best way that they had hoped. I knew in my intestine that one thing wasn’t proper, and I believe I simply wanted some validation.
I got here again from trip understanding I might not be collaborating on this alternative and apparently sufficient, I by no means heard from the investor once more. This beautiful a lot confirmed precisely what I used to be considering at first, which was that he was maybe viewing me as a way to an finish. To be truthful, I didn’t trouble to succeed in again out both. We basically each ended up ghosting one another. I’m glad I didn’t spend any of my time giving him my concepts or information; my husband not too long ago began his personal enterprise, so as an alternative, I’ve been pouring my free time into serving to him develop it. It’s been extraordinarily fulfilling, and I’m able to get that “entrepreneur bug” out of my system!
I sincerely want this investor one of the best in his enterprise endeavors, however I’m glad I didn’t take him up on this supply.
2. My new boss wants fixed reassurance
The excellent news is two-fold: Jim has had some wins in his space of labor that appear to have calmed his nervousness not less than to the purpose he’s not fretting at me always about his personal work. He’s undoubtedly an anxious individual although — I hear from him not less than as soon as every week about how a lot he’s nervous that generative AI goes to take over his job. That’s simpler for me to disregard than a stream of anxieties in our one-on-ones although. The opposite a part of the great(ish) information is that resulting from some huge miscommunications with him, I applied shared note-taking for our one-on-ones and that has turned out to additionally assist give our conferences higher construction. We’ve got a shared operating doc the place we add notes concerning the present assembly on the high and save all of the earlier ones beneath. We each add agenda objects to this doc. It’s undoubtedly serving to hold our weekly one-on-ones on observe and will get me across the difficulty that I don’t need his recommendation on something I’m engaged on as a result of I can suppose extra rigorously forward of time about what to debate (oddly, he’s always suggesting I exploit generative AI on my work duties, despite the fact that he’s tremendous anxious about this expertise — I ignore that recommendation too).
The unhealthy information is that his nervousness is the least of his issues. He works extremely quick on initiatives that basically want considerate work, says sure to the whole lot with no prioritization for our group which has resulted in us being signed up for work that’s nowhere close to what we needs to be doing, and makes a whole lot of errors. After greater than a yr on this job, he nonetheless doesn’t perceive the basics of our technical discipline. I spend a whole lot of time correcting his misconceptions, though I’ve realized it doesn’t actually do a lot good so I’m making an attempt to tug again on doing that too. My grandboss, Jim’s boss and my former supervisor, is extremely uninvolved in our group’s work to the purpose I doubt he’s seeing the vast majority of Jim’s errors. All this to say, I’m fairly certain I’m not lengthy for this job, which is disappointing as a result of it was once an awesome place. I’ve employed a summer time intern so am planning to remain via the summer time since there’s nobody else to mentor them, however am considering of giving discover on the finish of the summer time and dealing as a freelancer/contractor for some time. Very excited to be my very own boss! Thanks once more in your nice recommendation.
3. I intentionally over-claimed a tuition reimbursement (#3 on the hyperlink)
Shortly after I emailed you, I truly received supplied a a lot higher-paying job at an organization in California and determined to take it, so I ended up simply paying the whole lot again in full and it looks like a weight off my shoulders. I’m a lot happier at my new job too and have lots much less stress. I wished to say thanks once more in your recommendation – it was very a lot appreciated.
